Index to Alexander's Adoption Story

During the past 30 months, I have been in search of, and started to reunite with, my birth family. I am adopted; it is a different experience of the world than for someone who has always been around those who look, feel and are psychically connected. Many adoptees describe feeling isolated and rootless. And then the incredible joy when reconnected, sometimes after many decades.

This is my story as it continues to unfold. The postings were made to an online support group for other adoptees and birth-mothers. There is a good deal of repetition in the postings, and the facts, and viewpoints change as the search/reunion process continues. Rather than edit the files, I have left them as posted in real-time and they thus reflect the journey moment-by-moment.

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First Steps: My Life in an Anonymous Letter (July 19, 2000)
The First Posting: Introducing Alexander (August 20, 2000)
Late Summer Impasse (August 26, 2000)
Birth Mother Found! ... but ... (October 2, 2000)
Birth Mother Found Again! ... but ... (October 7, 2000)
First Call to Mom ... but ... (December 3, 2000)
Changing Course ... Contacting Birth Mom's Brother (December 7, 2000)
Getting to Know My Uncle (December 21, 2000)
A Christmas Visit to My Uncle? (December 22, 2000)
The Beginnings of Reunion (December 26, 2000)
Searching Strategies (December 28, 2000)
Speculation About Shame (January 2, 2001)
New Course: Writing a Letter to Birth Mom (January 8, 2001)
Birth Mom Responds! (January 19, 2001)
First Phone Call with Birth Mom (January 22, 2001)
Second Phone Call with Birth Mom (January 29, 2001)
Third Phone Call with Birth Mom (February 5, 2001)
Fourth Phone Call with Birth Mom (February 12, 2001)
Fifth Phone Call with Birth Mom (February 19, 2001)
My Childhood Fear (February 25, 2001)
The Final Call to Birth Mom? (February 25, 2001)
Sixth Phone Call with Birth Mom (February 26, 2001)
About Lies and Personal Responsibility (March 2, 2001)
Seventh Phone Call with Birth Mom (March 5, 2001)
And Suddenly I Have A Father (March 6, 2001)
Contemplating Contact (March 10, 2001)
Eighth Phone Call with Birth Mom -- and More! (March 13, 2001)
Birth Dad Contacted! (March 14, 2001)
Crisis! Baby Steps To Create A Future (March 17, 2001)
Birth Dad Responds (March 19, 2001)
Birth Dad Welcomes His New Son (March 21, 2001)
Sharing My Dad's Spirit (March 23, 2001)
Ninth Phone Call with Birth Mom -- and More! (March 27, 2001)
Unsolicited Reunion Visit (March 27, 2001)
Tenth Phone Call with Birth Mom -- and More! (April 2, 2001)
Eleventh Phone Call with Birth Mom -- and More! (April 9, 2001)
Twelfth Phone Call with Birth Mom -- Easter Weekend (April 17, 2001)
Thirteenth Phone Call with Birth Mom -- and More! (April 23, 2001)
Birth Dad Changes Heart (April 25, 2001)
Reunion: Week Fourteen (May 1, 2001)
Three Magic Words (May 3, 2001)
Reunion: Week Fifteen (May 7, 2001)
First Meeting with Dad and My Siblings (May 27, 2001)
The 100 Day Dad (June 19, 2001)
The 100 Day Dad -- A Thank You (June 21, 2001)
Reunion: Six Months On (July 25, 2001)
Risking The Truth (August 28, 2001)
As The Universe Unfolds (September 5, 2001)
Return of the 100 Day Dad (October 17, 2001)
Closing The Loop, Sister Found (October 22, 2001)
Marking Anniversaries (October 24, 2001)
Mom's Voice One Year Later? Already? (December 3, 2001)
Reflections Before a Second Reunion (January 2, 2002)
Break Through? (March 13, 2002)
About Cats And Bags (March 18, 2002)
A Thank You About Cats And Bags (March 20, 2002)

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